{"id":106,"date":"2013-07-09T03:21:02","date_gmt":"2013-07-08T21:21:02","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/skepticink.com\/enoughsenough\/?p=106"},"modified":"2013-07-09T03:25:23","modified_gmt":"2013-07-08T21:25:23","slug":"my-uu-church-asked-me-to-speak-i-asked-them-to-speak-up","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/skepticink.com\/enoughsenough\/2013\/07\/09\/my-uu-church-asked-me-to-speak-i-asked-them-to-speak-up\/","title":{"rendered":"My UU church asked me to speak.  I asked them to speak up."},"content":{"rendered":"<p style=\"text-align: left\">[This is the text of a talk I gave at my UU church Jul 7, 2013.]<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left\"><strong style=\"font-size: 13px\"><span style=\"font-size: 13px\">The Subway Rule: \u00a0If you see something, say something.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px\">Former Obama speechwriter, Jon Lovett (writer for the show, 1600 Penn), gave the commencement address at Pitzer college last May.\u00a0 He said we\u2019re \u201cdrowning in BS, utterances true enough not to be lies, wrecking our trust, lowering our standards for the truth and making it hard to achieve anything.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>There\u2019s a book about BS by Laura Penny called:\u00a0 \u201cYour call is important to us\u201d.\u00a0 One reviewer said Penny \u201cdisembowels the culture of globalized, supersized, consumerized BS, from Bush\u2019s White House to Big Pharma. \u00a0She shows us how this smorgasbord of phoniness alienates us from one another, breeds apathy, and makes us just plain stupid.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>So, is religion an oasis of sincerity in this morass of lies?\u00a0 Billions turn to it as a bastion of sincerity and authenticity.\u00a0 But even a glance tells us that it must be a purveyor of mis and disinformation.\u00a0 Even if one of the religions is true, that leaves billions of wrong believers!\u00a0 If they\u2019re all wrong, well, then the whole religious world just is BS with no pool because there\u2019s no dry land at all.\u00a0 In such a climate, merely stating the obvious is an invigorating tonic, but it\u2019s one that can cost you votes, your job, or your friends.\u00a0 So what role does religion have to play in our culture?\u00a0 UU says it is a religion, but what does saying it is a religion add?\u00a0 Perhaps religion is just an imperialistic term, one that claims what is best about being human, but adds nothing of its own.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d like to share bits of my lifelong encounter with religion, and how I ended up with you, here, for now. Some of what I\u2019ll share are skirmishes I\u2019ve had in the culture war.\u00a0 I don\u2019t like conflict, but I don\u2019t avoid it at any cost.\u00a0 There are times I will speak up, just as we speak up when our kids are in danger or not getting their needs met.<\/p>\n<p>When American Atheists held their national convention in Des Moines in 2011, I contacted their president, David Silverman, and suggested we invite the UUs to host a booth.\u00a0 He said, \u201cNope.\u00a0 No religions.\u201d\u00a0 He told me they had tried it before and it didn\u2019t work, because in the public\u2019s eyes, religion just means supernaturalism, favoritism and unsupported faith claims.\u00a0 He understands he has many friends in UU churches, but he\u2019s a savvy marketer and can\u2019t afford to muddle his message:\u00a0 religion is the problem.\u00a0 Because I\u2019m not in his position, I can afford to be more accommodating.\u00a0 There is much good in religion because there are good people in it.\u00a0 It has never made sense that being religious requires belief on poor, or purely subjective, evidence.\u00a0 I used to say I was a religious atheist, but I had to explain myself every time I said it.\u00a0 And it was an affront to my atheist friends.\u00a0 I\u2019m religious in the sense I\u2019m devoted to life\u2019s ultimate concerns and I\u2019m comfortable in churches, at least ones that will have me.\u00a0 But life\u2019s ultimate concerns don\u2019t need religion!\u00a0 \u2018Religion\u2019 is a word we use as a marker, and it can be used to set us apart.\u00a0 Religion doesn\u2019t own life\u2019s richest experiences.\u00a0 The rising number of \u2018nones\u2019, the religiously unaffiliated, know that.\u00a0 And people who sleep in on Sundays know that.\u00a0 They aren\u2019t missing anything; they just aren\u2019t religious.<\/p>\n<p>Of course, UUs aren\u2019t part of the BS problem.\u00a0 We can\u2019t be wrong because we\u2019re creedless.\u00a0 Instead of creeds, we have values.\u00a0 We\u2019re clean, but risk being seen as empty.\u00a0 We\u2019re mostly earthly and don\u2019t offer the grand things usually associated with religion.\u00a0 The GOP is struggling with its creed, trying to update its platform without losing who they are.\u00a0 But will it pay the price?\u00a0 The price is putting reason and evidence above doctrine, and billions of people have been told that\u2019s the wrong thing to do, by religion.\u00a0 UU is well-situated to serve the growing number of people who love religion, but demand modernity:\u00a0 acceptance of science and rejection of sectarian, supremacist views.<\/p>\n<p>So, what to do? \u00a0Lovett\u2019s hoping we have reached Peak BS.\u00a0 He thinks there is a demand for Authenticity.\u00a0 He cites Jon Stewart and Louis CK.\u00a0 We trust the satirists more than the ones pretending to be sincere.\u00a0 We\u2019re sick of the postmodern rootlessness, but we\u2019re skeptical of anything that lays claim to truth.\u00a0 Good, we should be.\u00a0 And we should be.<\/p>\n<p>Lovett told the graduating students to be cognizant of their inexperience, but recognize the value in their fresh sets of eyes.\u00a0 Likewise, we have to admit our ignorance, while speaking our truth.\u00a0 We know some things, and that\u2019s not our fault.\u00a0 Once you care about anything, there are better and worse ways to behave.\u00a0 These ways fall out and follow from whatever we value.<\/p>\n<p>He cites the subway rule:\u00a0 If you see something, say something.\u00a0 I\u2019ve come to appreciate this stance, for several reasons.\u00a0 First, when I am silent, I am not standing up for myself.\u00a0 Second, I am letting others who might think as I do think that they\u2019re alone, when they\u2019re not.\u00a0 Finally, I am giving the impression there is no issue at all.\u00a0 I\u2019m looking the other way.\u00a0 I might be wrong about an issue, but it would be further wrong to stay quiet out of fear that I might be wrong.\u00a0 The subway rule encourages us to speak up, just in case there\u2019s an issue.<\/p>\n<p>But wait.\u00a0 The subway rule is about stopping terrorist bombers and the like.\u00a0 Religion is often comforting and harmless, right?\u00a0 Of course, it often is, but not always.\u00a0 So, it\u2019s not religion that\u2019s the problem.\u00a0 It is BS, whether it\u2019s found in religion or not.\u00a0 Religion is not the only source of BS. \u00a0Here are just a few examples.<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<hr align=\"center\" size=\"2\" width=\"100%\" \/>\n<\/div>\n<p>A psychic in Hardin, Texas was recently hit with a $6.8 million defamation judgment for telling 911 that 32 bodies were buried in some poor family\u2019s backyard.\u00a0 Of course, that claim was unfounded.\u00a0 \u00a0Psychic Sylvia Browne told Amanda Berry\u2019s mother that her daughter was dead, then we learned she had been kept for 10 years in a Cleveland home.\u00a0 Does UU \u2018make room\u2019 for psychic ability?\u00a0 I worry that it does.\u00a0 And we\u2019re prone to saying things like The arc of the moral universe bends toward justice.\u00a0 Or The earth is our mother.\u00a0 (I can tell you this much, she\u2019s not like my mother.)\u00a0 The weird thing is this:\u00a0 we can say these things only if they aren\u2019t taken too seriously!\u00a0 But if other people really make important decisions based on them or their emotions are involved, well, we had better clarify we\u2019re speaking poetically, or be ready to back up such statements.\u00a0 So, what do you mean \u2018the earth is our mother\u2019?\u00a0 Will she drive me around and pay for college?<\/p>\n<p>I heard a successful, liberal minister speak about how to get \u2018spiritual, not religious\u2019 people to come back to church.\u00a0 His main argument was that \u2018the church offers eternity\u2019.\u00a0 He invited questions, so I spoke up.\u00a0 I said that many of those people aren\u2019t buying the afterlife bit.\u00a0 They are grateful to have this one life, the one we are sure of.\u00a0 If there is an afterlife, they don\u2019t think churches have special access to it.\u00a0 I\u2019d like to tell people who have left church that we need them, not that they need us.\u00a0 And living forever isn\u2019t necessary for meaning.\u00a0 If life is not meaningful now, how will extending it forever make it meaningful?\u00a0 And if life is meaningful now, how does its ending reach back in time and remove that meaning?\u00a0 I spoke up because I knew I couldn\u2019t be the only one who felt that way in this large group of liberal religious people.\u00a0 In such situations, there can be a conspiracy of silence.\u00a0 Almost everyone privately has doubts, but assumes everyone else is in agreement, so they keep quiet.<\/p>\n<p>Oprah recently delivered the commencement address at Harvard and received an honorary doctorate of law.\u00a0 In an article about her speech in Time, \u201cFormer Dean of Harvard College,\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/harry-lewis.blogspot.com\/2013\/03\/oprah-at-harvard-part-ii.html\">Harry Lewis<\/a>, pointedly noted that, \u201cIt seems very odd for Harvard to honor such a high profile popularizer of the irrational. I can\u2019t square this in my mind, at a time when political and religious nonsense so imperil the rule of reason in this allegedly enlightened democracy and around the world.\u201d\u00a0 He spoke up.<\/p>\n<p>Time continued:\u00a0 \u201cExamples of the disrespect for, and not just misunderstanding of, science are everywhere. It\u2019s not just those who ignore climate science (alas, at our peril). [Recall how one candidate] <a href=\"http:\/\/thinkprogress.org\/politics\/2008\/10\/24\/31264\/palin-fruit-flies\/?mobile=nc\">mocked research<\/a>\u00a0on fruit flies, ignoring the reality that most of modern genetics is built on the study of this organism, or the\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/www.nytimes.com\/2012\/08\/24\/opinion\/the-medieval-roots-of-todd-akins-theories.html?_r=0\">factually incorrect<\/a>\u00a0belief that women can \u2018<a href=\"http:\/\/ideas.time.com\/2012\/08\/21\/todd-akin-fallout-rape-abortion-and-the-dark-history-of-qualifying-violence-against-women\/\">shut the whole thing down<\/a>\u2018 when they are raped to avoid conception.\u201d<br \/>\nTime magazine said, \u201cOprah\u2019s passionate advocacy extends, unfortunately, to a hearty embrace of phony science.\u00a0\u2026<i>Oprah\u2019s particular brand of celebrity is not a good fit for the values of a university whose motto, Veritas, means truth.\u201d<\/i><\/p>\n<p>\u201cIs not a good fit for\u2026\u201d This is the kind of careful observation we can always make:\u00a0 X does not fit with Y.\u00a0 I often feel obligated to make them, because being silent doesn\u2019t fit with my other values!\u00a0 If you see something, say something.\u00a0 Subway rule.<\/p>\n<p>Am I being too hard on Oprah?\u00a0 Too scientistic?\u00a0 Too arrogant, too closed-minded?<\/p>\n<p>Louisiana recently rejected another attempt to repeal <a href=\"http:\/\/www.talk2action.org\/story\/2008\/6\/26\/18920\/8497\" target=\"_blank\">the \u201cLouisiana Science Education Act\u201d<\/a>, which allows creationism to be taught in schools.\u00a0 It lost by one vote, cast by a believer in shamanic rituals, who was worried that much of life\u2019s meaning would be lost if we only taught science in the schools.\u00a0 There\u2019s more to life than science.<\/p>\n<p>Does religion play loose like this?\u00a0 Um, yes, because people do it.\u00a0 God loves you.\u00a0 Prayer works: \u00a0God always says Yes, No or Not Yet.\u00a0 God has a plan that includes Moore, OK.\u00a0 The arc of the moral universe bends toward justice.\u00a0 The earth is our mother.\u00a0 I don\u2019t want to ban these statements, but they should raise an eyebrow.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019d like the religion of the 21<sup>st<\/sup> century to avoid any whiff of being a confidence game, of playing on people\u2019s emotions or psychological needs.\u00a0 It should try to be of service in those areas, but avoid any attempts to manipulate them.\u00a0 Of course, there will always be people who want to be manipulated.\u00a0 I don\u2019t want to outlaw hucksterism.\u00a0 I just want to expose it.\u00a0 And I\u2019d like UU to have nothing to do with it.<\/p>\n<div align=\"center\">\n<hr align=\"center\" size=\"2\" width=\"100%\" \/>\n<\/div>\n<p>Ok, so religions contain some BS and UU isn\u2019t immune, but that doesn\u2019t mean we should throw it out.\u00a0 In the current issue of UUWorld, Rev. Victoria Safford asks,\u00a0 \u201cHow do I decide which beautiful, clumsy, and imperfect institutions will carry and hold my \u201cname, hand, and heart\u201d?<\/p>\n<p>In March of 2011, I heard Nate Phelps speak at the Reason Rally on the national mall in Washington, DC.\u00a0 Nate is the son of Fred Phelps, and some protestors from Westboro Baptist Church were in the free speech area while Nate was on stage.\u00a0 Nate escaped from his family at midnight on his 18<sup>th<\/sup> birthday.\u00a0 Nate said, \u201cThey called me a rebel. For years, I wore that name with shame until I realized that confronted with the god of my father, rebellion was the only moral option.\u201d\u00a0 This is my experience.\u00a0 When I got to know the God I was raised to believe in, the only moral option was rebellion.<\/p>\n<p>Many UUs are defectors.\u00a0 Some are refugees, but our camp is so comfortable it\u2019s hard to call them that.\u00a0 Some of us are activists.\u00a0 But most of the ones I have met, and the ones who write for UU publications, are gentle activists.\u00a0 We abhor what we\u2019ve seen in human history, the trading of one dogmatic tyranny for another.\u00a0 So, we\u2019re meek, but we do have spines.<\/p>\n<p>We have public and private faces.\u00a0 In private, many of us have robust, red-meat beliefs, but we\u2019d never presume to foist them on anyone else.\u00a0 But that belief is one that we insist on:\u00a0 that no belief should be forced on anyone, and everyone should be treated equally.\u00a0 We leave personal convictions alone, but public assertions are fair game and often challenged.\u00a0 Holly Near\u2019s \u201cSinging for our lives\u201d, in our songbook as \u201cWe are a gentle, angry people\u201d, sums it up.<\/p>\n<p>In The End of Faith, Sam Harris woke many liberal and moderate believers from a comfortable, ecumenical sleep.\u00a0 The deference we normally show religion can cause us to be silent in the presence of evil.\u00a0 If we work for equality, we have to say some positions are wrong, even if they have a religious pedigree.\u00a0\u00a0 And this is hard for us since we value freedom and equality.\u00a0 But treating people equally does not require us to treat all beliefs equally.\u00a0 In fact, it seems that to be moral ourselves, we can\u2019t.\u00a0 We have to discriminate.\u00a0 Discrimination usually has a negative connotation, but we can\u2019t be moral actors at all without it.<\/p>\n<p>So, to be moral, I have to continually re-evaluate my associations.\u00a0 I\u2019m an American, but should I be?\u00a0 Well, I have to live somewhere, and I can work for change while remaining a citizen.\u00a0 And I can\u2019t avoid responsibility, wherever I go.<\/p>\n<p>Practicality gets in my way.\u00a0 I share many of the motivations behind vegetarianism, I just don\u2019t care enough.\u00a0 I\u2019m not green enough:\u00a0 I don\u2019t live near my job.\u00a0 I don\u2019t ride the bus.\u00a0 I don\u2019t ride my bike.\u00a0 I\u2019m overweight.\u00a0 I don\u2019t give enough to the desperately poor.\u00a0 I look the other way while the NSA performs unreasonable searches.\u00a0 I\u2019ll change if the whole culture changes, but I go along with a lot of evil.\u00a0 I can\u2019t do it all.\u00a0 But I can speak up.<\/p>\n<p>Zach Wahls is still a Boy Scout.\u00a0 Nuns on the Bus are still Catholic.\u00a0 (They work for social justice.\u00a0 Sister Simone addressed the\u00a0<a title=\"2012 Democratic National Convention\" href=\"http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/2012_Democratic_National_Convention\">Democratic National Convention<\/a>\u00a0in September 2012.)\u00a0 They are the loyal opposition, staying for what is best and speaking up against what is wrong, or for what could be better.\u00a0 Maybe something like this is a way forward.\u00a0 What is not an option is to maintain my affiliations and remain silent, as long as I am as hard on myself as I am on others.<\/p>\n<p>I was raised an Episcopalian.\u00a0 I heard about Noah\u2019s Ark in 2<sup>nd<\/sup> grade, but all I remembered was the rainbow.\u00a0 I didn\u2019t see the drowned puppies and children for another 15 years.\u00a0 I learned of the Crucifixion and never wondered if that was the best way God could have forgiven us.\u00a0 I grew up with many loving people there, but I had myself debaptized in Omaha two years ago.\u00a0 My own changed attitudes had already dissolved the covenant my parents had made on my behalf.\u00a0 But it was an important step of recognition.\u00a0 I am a recovering Christian.\u00a0 Christians might prefer that I say I\u2019m recovering from some elements of my religious upbringing.\u00a0 But I\u2019m not just a lapsed or lazy Christian, it\u2019s now necessary for me to repudiate its core tenets.\u00a0 I am a humanist, which means I must be, not against Christians, but against Christianity.\u00a0 I embrace \u2018Love your neighbor\u2019, but think that that is at odds with the idea that it is a virtue to choose God over our fellows.\u00a0 So, to borrow from another article in this month\u2019s UU World (about climate change), I didn\u2019t use my shareholder status to encourage disinvestment by the Episcopalian church in its core doctrine.\u00a0 I divested of my shares.\u00a0 I put my energies elsewhere.<\/p>\n<p>Such decisions are not easy ones.\u00a0 I once marveled how anyone could remain in the Catholic Church after the pedophilia scandal.\u00a0 After the 2004 election, I was mystified how anyone could vote Republican.\u00a0 But I\u2019m still an American.\u00a0 So, whenever I see a gulf like this, one that makes other people look plain crazy, I\u2019ve learned to look at myself.\u00a0 I support marriage equality.\u00a0 Bob Vander Plaats, president of The Family Leader, doesn\u2019t.\u00a0 He has planted his stake and by its reckoning our culture is adrift.\u00a0 To understand people like him, I ask, \u2018What would outrage me?\u2019\u00a0 I would be outraged if Roe v Wade were overturned, as it has in practice in a few states.\u00a0 I am outraged that our intelligence apparatus is outside the law.\u00a0 So, to understand those across the divide, I just have to realize that gay marriage is to them what making abortion illegal or performing blanket searches are to me:\u00a0 unacceptable by my values.<\/p>\n<p>But that doesn\u2019t mean our views are on a par.\u00a0 This is the big mistake of relativism and postmodernism.\u00a0 Yes, we should question framings and assumptions.\u00a0 But some ideas go together and some do not.\u00a0 Bob VP\u2019s views and my views are not compatible with the same set of other views!\u00a0 Mine are more egalitarian, they just are.\u00a0 His are more in line with pleasing Yahweh.\u00a0 They just are.\u00a0 \u201cX is not a good fit for Y\u201d.\u00a0 I\u2019d like to say Bob VP\u2019s views are not a good fit for the American ideal of equality.\u00a0 I\u2019d like to corner him into admitting that equality is not a good fit for his brand of Christianity, or at least that it is not its highest value.\u00a0 He\u2019d like to please God first, then be as equal as possible after that.<\/p>\n<p>Many UUs are defectors, but to work together, we can\u2019t just keep defecting.\u00a0 We have to grow roots somewhere, and this often requires compromise.\u00a0 A few postmodernists and anarchists resist even this.\u00a0 They have identified the need for solidity as the enemy of life, of adaptation, and are constantly undermining whatever power structures arise, to keep them from freezing and trapping life.\u00a0 Our \u2018creative interchange\u2019 leans a bit in this direction.\u00a0 Creativity is always destructive of something.\u00a0 So, perversely, it is radical and heretical in a UU setting to say we can be certain of anything.\u00a0 But if we can be certain of some things, that surely would not be our fault.\u00a0 I am so sure anthropogenic climate change is occurring, that I think it would be wrong to do nothing.\u00a0 But I can express my certainty like this, as a conditional:\u00a0 \u201cIf the science is correct, human activity is harming our planet\u201d.\u00a0 Here\u2019s an even stronger claim, without the conditional:\u00a0 \u201cI am entirely certain that God does not prevent all suffering\u201d.\u00a0 I am also certain of this:\u00a0 \u201cIf she could prevent more and doesn\u2019t, well, that raises grave concerns about working with her\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>So, my outrage at the pedophilia scandal, and my outrage over the Iraq war were legitimate.\u00a0 And I don\u2019t have to say my view is only my opinion; those things don\u2019t fit with my values.\u00a0 But I have to start with myself, and I have to do my homework.\u00a0 I have stayed in America despite its great wrongs.\u00a0 I am not vegetarian.\u00a0 I am implicated in many evils, great and small.\u00a0 So before I point out \u201cX does not fit with Y\u201d about a position (and sometimes I must), I have to try to understand it.\u00a0 This is fine.\u00a0 But once I put in the time and find problems, I can no longer keep an open mind and look the other way.\u00a0 I have to speak up.\u00a0 This isn\u2019t to be a busybody. It\u2019s more like being a mandatory reporter, like Ed Snowden may turn out to be.<\/p>\n<p>But I might be wrong, right?\u00a0 Perhaps I should just be quiet, or mostly quiet.\u00a0 I\u2019ve heard that happiness is a good sense of humor and a bad memory.\u00a0 Wouldn\u2019t it be easier to play it safe?\u00a0 In philosophy, quietism results when it can be shown that a problem is the result of confusion or an unjustified assumption.\u00a0 Perhaps quietism can help us.\u00a0 Instead of solving a problem, it dissolves it by saying there\u2019s no problem there in the first place.\u00a0 But it really has to be true to work.\u00a0 We can\u2019t just sweep a real problem under the rug if we care about the truth.\u00a0 Quietism about God and religious differences is often politically smart, but just as often shortsighted and morally problematic.\u00a0 Many of us have been trained by religion to doubt ourselves when we see something that doesn\u2019t add up.\u00a0 But some observations are hard to be quiet about.\u00a0 Under the new Authenticity, we are encouraged to speak up, even if we might be wrong, just in case we are right.<\/p>\n<p>So, can we partner with the Boy Scouts?\u00a0 With the Catholic Church?\u00a0 My previous church served meals at a homeless shelter.\u00a0 So did a Catholic church, until the shelter put out a basket of condoms.\u00a0 The Catholics stopped serving there.\u00a0 I\u2019m sure they went to be of service somewhere else, but not to those people.\u00a0 Can we respect their position?\u00a0 Pope Francis recently said Jesus shed his blood for everyone, including atheists.\u00a0 The Vatican corrected him.\u00a0 Doesn\u2019t sound egalitarian to me.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t fit.<\/p>\n<p>UU is creedless, but it\u2019s not anything goes.\u00a0 We speak up in the presence of bigotry.\u00a0 This requires us to reject many conceptions of God.\u00a0 It\u2019s often bad form to say this out loud because we don\u2019t know always what another person\u2019s conception of God is.<\/p>\n<p>But what about when people tell us their creed, as Bob Vander Plaats does?\u00a0 My own view is that, to be moral myself, I can\u2019t smile and nod when Bob Vander Plaats<a href=\"https:\/\/skepticink.com\/enoughsenough\/files\/2013\/07\/if-you-see-something.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-107 alignleft\" alt=\"if you see something\" src=\"https:\/\/skepticink.com\/enoughsenough\/files\/2013\/07\/if-you-see-something.jpg\" width=\"250\" height=\"241\" \/><\/a> tells me about his God.\u00a0 I have to openly reject that God, whether he exists or not.\u00a0 When he brings up his conception of God, to be silent is complicity. \u00a0It gives the impression there is no problem. \u00a0I stand with Nate Phelps on that.\u00a0 I myself can\u2019t be an apatheist.\u00a0 I do care.<\/p>\n<p>Same with the Catholics at the homeless shelter.\u00a0 I can object to their discrimination without even mentioning their reasons for it.\u00a0 Unless they bring them up.\u00a0 Then it is my obligation to say something.\u00a0 All that is necessary for bad ideas to flourish is for good people to say nothing.<\/p>\n<p>When ideas that don\u2019t fit are injected into the conversation, for example, when the presidential inauguration includes prayer, or God is on the money (a Cold War gimmick), I feel obligated to say something to avoid the wrong of omission.\u00a0 Of course, we choose our battles and there is a time and place.\u00a0 But quietism puts that battle off indefinitely.\u00a0 That is to cede moral ground to the status quo.\u00a0 The status quo always has this advantage.\u00a0 It is impossible to be the change we want to see in the world without any friction with others.<\/p>\n<p>Since we know all beliefs can\u2019t be true, quietism about faith conflicts relies on saying, even hoping, that beliefs won\u2019t leak out, they won\u2019t explode, that they don\u2019t matter.\u00a0 But we have beliefs because they matter to us.\u00a0 Can a belief remain private?\u00a0 Only if it\u2019s inconsequential, like liking chocolate more than vanilla.\u00a0 But many beliefs, probably most, leak out.\u00a0 People vote.\u00a0 People discriminate.<\/p>\n<p>And we must discriminate to be moral.\u00a0 It just really matters what basis we discriminate on.\u00a0 There are good and bad grounds for discrimination, and the grounds we choose depend on our other values.\u00a0 If we value equality, we will still discriminate:\u00a0 we will favor things that promote equality.\u00a0 We just won\u2019t favor or disfavor things that people have no choice over, like gender, race or sexual orientation.<\/p>\n<p>But some people are conservative and some are liberal by nature.\u00a0 It\u2019s a very liberal insight that, perhaps, conservatives can\u2019t be blamed for their views!\u00a0 This is part of the vibe behind ecumenicalism.\u00a0 Good people disagree.\u00a0 But relations of ideas hold independently from the people who hold them.\u00a0 So, we push liberal ideas, hoping conservatives will accept them eventually.\u00a0 We have to, to be moral ourselves.\u00a0 We can\u2019t wait for unanimity.\u00a0 The way I\u2019ve found to respect people with whom I disagree is honoring their right to value what they choose, but pointing out the costs.\u00a0 If they don\u2019t care about those costs, then we just disagree.\u00a0 My aim is to show that they actually do, or should, care about those costs.<\/p>\n<p>King borrowed this famous quote from an 1853 sermon by the Unitarian minister, Theodore Parker:<\/p>\n<p>&#8220;I do not pretend to understand the moral universe; the arc is a long one, my eye reaches but little ways; I cannot calculate the curve and complete the figure by the experience of sight; I can divine it by conscience.\u00a0 And from what I see I am sure it bends towards justice.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know enough to agree with Parker.\u00a0 I don\u2019t see a moral arc, but a frightfully twisted landscape with a few peaks and many valleys.\u00a0 Obama spoke up about this one on April 4, 2008, the 40th anniversary of King\u2019s assassination, then-Senator Obama declared: \u201cDr. King once said that the arc of the moral universe is long but it bends towards justice. It bends towards justice, but here is the thing: it does not bend on its own. It bends because each of us in our own ways put our hand on that arc and we bend it in the direction of justice.\u201d\u00a0 I agree with him with one important change:\u00a0 If it bends, it bends because each of us works to bend it.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, we have reasons for optimism, which should supplant mere wishful thinking.\u00a0 But what about those who died before such progress?\u00a0 To them, it really matters when all this justice, equity and compassion happens.\u00a0 Justice delayed is justice denied.\u00a0 Now, if humanity is alone, without a god, then there\u2019s no problem.\u00a0 Many of us do our best to promote justice.\u00a0 But UUism mentions God.\u00a0 There\u2019s a pamphlet about God in the entryway.\u00a0 Many of us have had powerful, personal experiences that we take to be evidence of God.\u00a0 That\u2019s fine.\u00a0 But to be credible in our work for social change, it seems we must have a conception of God that is compatible with our other values.\u00a0 If there is a God who can help us, it\u2019s hard to see that he helps people equally.\u00a0 He seems to play favorites.\u00a0 The only possible Gods I have found that fit the facts on the ground are the unconscious god-as-nature, the impotent God-as-bystander, or the powerful God who plays favorites.\u00a0 If the Red Cross behaved like God does during a catastrophe, I couldn\u2019t partner with them. \u00a0I\u2019ve wrestled with God concepts.\u00a0 I\u2019m open to them.\u00a0 I just can\u2019t find one I can work with that is worthy of the name.\u00a0 I keep looking, but at this point, it would be like finding something that goes faster than light.\u00a0 While I\u2019ve been speaking, about 300 kids have died from hunger alone.\u00a0 Working with God requires that we are convinced she just can\u2019t do any better.\u00a0 Of course, we should do better!\u00a0 But our failings are irrelevant to God\u2019s role.\u00a0 If she\u2019s there, she either can\u2019t reduce suffering further, or she doesn\u2019t care to.\u00a0 There are no other options.<\/p>\n<p>Richard Dawkins kicked off the New Atheist movement with these words:\u00a0 Let&#8217;s now stop being so damned respectful!\u00a0 I don\u2019t think it\u2019s about respect.\u00a0 It\u2019s about plain honesty.\u00a0 Howling offense is an effective way to silence people saying things people don\u2019t like, but it\u2019s a non sequitur.\u00a0 It is not disrespectful to note that a policy or belief has consequences.\u00a0 Some will claim that it is, but this is evasion.\u00a0 The issue is whether we look the other way.\u00a0 Of course we should watch our tone, but silence is not compatible with just any values.\u00a0 We are a gentle, but angry people.<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 13px\">Dawkins worries about American politics.\u00a0 When so many Americans reject evolution, it\u2019s hard for any candidate who is simultaneously intelligent, informed and honest to get elected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>The subway rule:\u00a0 If you see something, say something.\u00a0 We might be wrong, but it would be further wrong to stay quiet out of fear that we might be wrong.\u00a0 But we\u2019re tribal and reason is slave to the passions.\u00a0 When only a few people point something out, even if it\u2019s correct, it can be ignored.\u00a0 And when billions say something, even if it\u2019s nonsense, it can\u2019t be ignored.\u00a0 I\u2019ve found meaning and purpose in speaking up when things don\u2019t fit, and not just in religious matters.\u00a0 In an age of BS the bad ideas blend right in.\u00a0 We\u2019re smarter and stronger together, but only when we share what we see.\u00a0 I love being a part of this fellowship, full of people who are working for social justice, which involves speaking our truth.\u00a0 We know some things for sure, and that\u2019s not our fault.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>[This is the text of a talk I gave at my UU church Jul 7, 2013.] The Subway Rule: \u00a0If you see something, say something. 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